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Tori Bailey seems to be living the life as someone who has literally redound a life when something fell apart in her 20s. Now she is approaching her 30s she begins to look at what exactly she is accepting whether it is Tom her partner, who became her “rock” in her book. She is continually travelling the globe promoting her lifestyle book and giving fans her views in arranged meetings. But when her best pal who she comes to a wedding with her and meets the “love of her life” Tori begins to look at her unpromising life with Tom. A witty examination of the fast paced life of a thirty something. Really enjoyed it and identified the choices women have to make. A great read!

I instantly liked the main character Tori Bailey, which is always a great start. She just seemed like part me, part my friends and all the wonderful women I know. She is successful, she is insecure, she is awesome, she is confused; she is every woman!
As far as the story goes. I like that the story is about a relationship that the main character has been in for six years. I like that she loves her partner, but that she has doubts. Her feelings are realistic and so is the relationship. I think the author got the nuances right of what it is like to have been with the same person for a long time. A lot of the situations I could relate to, though luckily not all!!!
However, I do wish there had been a bit more to the ending, though I am sure there will be a sequel. I am also pretty sure I will be reading it.

This is such a great book! I found is super relevant and funny and the main character really speaks to me. The plot is engaging and it was a really compelling but easy read, I highly recommend

Great summer/beach read. One to relax to while hoping that your life isn't playing out that way.

Funny, honest and relatable. Following the success of her best-selling memoir, which told the world about her messy 20s and finding true love with ‘the man on the rock’, the pressure is now on Tori to produce a follow up, and tell her fans how she is still living the fairytale.
Only problem is, she’s not. Now in her 30s, she’s feeling the pressure to listen to her ‘ticking biological clock’ (ugh just typing that has made me feel sick), to maintain her career and settle down with ‘the man on the rock’, AKA Tom.
Once a happy and fulfilling relationship, it has now become stale and lacking kindness and intimacy. Tori is scared to leave and scared to stay, but how long can you live a lie?
Relatable on so many levels, and almost uncomfortably honest for those of us who have stayed in a relationship well past it’s sell by date. Many of the points this book raised have stuck with me in the days since a finished it. An inspiring piece of fiction.

I am so glad that Holly Bourne writes books. "How Do You Like Me Now" was an outstanding piece of fiction which spoke to my heart and soul. Bourne's writing is intense and real and incredibly important. Feminism is hard and tricky and spiky but essential. Tori Bailey is a realistic, difficult woman. And I love her! I am her! I highly recommend this book for every single woman living in today's world, and every man living with a woman. Every single human being should read this book.

At first look, How do you like me now? sounds like any other tongue-in-cheek book about the utter horror of turning 30. I've seen countless of these books, on the shelves of airport and train station bookshops or in the must-read lists of weekly magazines, reaching out to women dissatisfied with their jobs, bodies, boyfriends. Only their feisty best friend side-kick, the one who's always drunk, sleeps around but has a heart of gold, will accompany our heroine as she transforms her life before the clock strikes midnight on the last day of her twenties and her world changes forever...
Thankfully, Bourne's book steers clear of this paint-by-numbers approach to writing. That's not to say she avoids clichés completely, but she challenges and reconfigures them rather than patronisingly prescribing them to her reader.
Bourne provides astute observations on the current state of our social behaviour. She nails the format of weddings (you'll recognise every one you've been to in the last two years) and utterly deconstructs our use of social media. If you don't see your own behaviour in her descriptions of status updates and 'like' chasing, you're lying to yourself. Initially, I thought her millennial mirror was a little unkind - yes, cheese board wedding cakes are now everywhere but are they really hurting anyone? - but it soon evolved into a book of real substance.
Its depth and heart came from Tori's relationship with Tom. Around 20% in, Bourne provides a scene in which the long-term couple attempt a sexual encounter that results in emotional turmoil for Tori and an orgasm for Tom. From then on, Bourne doesn't let up. She gets under the skin of what it's like to be a long-term relationship, to have your career successes overshadowed by your friends' abilities to procreate, and to not really know what you want to do next at work, in life or in your relationship.
This book pulls the rug from under some of the bullshit that women have to deal with right now. From arranging babyshowers (accurately described as the "death of feminism") to dealing with mates who feel the fact they have children removes their responsibility to be a good friend (you'll have those people in your life without a doubt). From a picture of Tori's niece getting more likes than the announcement of her TED Talk gig to a woman claiming she's in a feminist relationship despite her taking full responsibility for contraception because her fella doesn't like condoms. I recognised it all and it all had me in stitches.
Tori's journey allows her to understand her own motivations and desires. The book's central message is clearly about doing what is right for you not what you're expected to or what looks good online.
That might sound rather glib and obvious but Bourne explores those pressures with so much insight and honesty that you realise how such trivia does affect your life choices. This book left me thinking heavily about my own life and decisions, and pondering whether I do things for myself or to fuel the image of myself that I construct for others.
How do you like me now? might be dressed as a colourful, quarter-life crisis romp but it's actually an astute exploration of happiness and how to find it.

As always, Holly Bourne's writing is witty and compulsively readable in this book. Her style fits the adult market just as well as the teen, and this book captures with almost uncomfortable accuracy what it's like to be a 30 something. At times this is a difficult read because of the unflinching honesty, but is entertaining at the same time.

Holly is a great writer and in her previous books she has dealt with serious and important issues. She also writes great, but flawed characters. Tori is no expection. She is not very likeable, but is often relatable, especially to women 30+. The issues that are brought up are mostly dealt with well. One glaring issue which I was angry about and I don’t feel was dealt with well at all is an incident between Tori and Tom. I felt this was an opportunity to show this was not okay, regardless of whether you are in a relationship but it was forgotten about pretty quickly.
The downside for me is there is very little plot to the story. It reads almost like a diary extract of a pretty average time in someone’s life. I also feel like Tori’s social media obsession is more of an issue for those currently in their teens/twenties. I don’t know many thirtysomethings who are obsessed with likes the way the younger generations are because they have been brought up in the internet age.
Overall, a decent first adult novel from Holly.
Thank you to the publisher and NetGalley for a copy of this book.

I'm so torn after having finished this. I loved Tori so much, her voice, her journey, how much I could identify my deepest, most secret fears, opinions, and hopes with hers. Tori and all the other characters are what make this book, as they are so wonderfully, hilariously, and empathetically drawn. I laughed out loud and was close to tears at times when reading. I raced through this, unable to totally shake the characters off when I stopped reading and desperate to know what happened. But I couldn't help feeling that the whole novel should have been made into a condensed Part One of a book which then goes on to show the next part of Tori's story. I was left feeling a little bit cheated I didn't get to see her fully in action! But I'll be so excited to see more of the same from Holly Bourne in future!

Tori Bailey has it all - because she has figured out that you don't need it all.
She has written a successful book about how to navigate your twenties in your own way, and people have lapped it up. She has a worldwide fan base, hoardes of fans on social media, and a wonderful boyfriend, Tom.
But in reality, Tori doesn't know what she's doing. All her friends are getting married or doing "proper grown up" things, her own social media streams are full of baby scan pictures or engagement shoots, and she's starting to wonder if she really wants everything she has sworn (in print) that women don't need to be happy?
I adored this book. I'm in my mid-thirties, started a family young, and yet still could identify very much with Tori. That instagram quote that says "I'm just winging it: Parenting, My Life, My Eyeliner.." is the one I identify most with so I definitely know the feeling of wondering what could be or what should be. Tori & Tom's relationship is an important one, because it's one we rarely read about - but I know that so many people will identify with it. Kudos to Holly for not shying away from difficult content - I know from reading her Young Adult novels that she's not one to stay quiet on important subjects, and wondered how this would cross over to her first Adult Novel. It works perfectly, and I need more immediately.

Social media stardom can be toxic. What happens when Tori's expectations of turning thirty are disrupted and she needs to accept her truth is not her manufactured truth? Enjoyable but a little thin.

I’d never read this author before she has written YA books previously and this was her first adult novel.
An easy read and my sort of book. I wasn’t sure if I was enjoying it much at first. I felt it was a little like a teenage book with swearing in it to make it more adult, however something clicked with me and then I got really into it.
Loved it by the end. As I said an easy read, a good holiday book.
Can recommend and will read other books by her now.

Having just turned thirty this past year I was eager to read about a character in my particular shoes. This book did not disappoint! It was a wonderful, humorous entry into this new decade of mine.

I could not relate with the main character in this book at all.
I never sat there panicking that I was going to end up single and thinking that I would need to "settle".
I adored Tori's best friend Dee and when reading about some of their escapades really reminded me of nights out with my oldest friend too.
I enjoyed the feminism aspect of the book. and how Tori wasn't afraid of calling people out on their behaviour. Also, the way that social networking was so important to Tori. I'm sure that there are people out there who rely on their posts and photos getting the all important "like" as some kind of affirmation that you are of course the funniest, prettiest, slimmest and most popular person out there and that yes, your life is perfect - but thankfully, I'm not aware of any of my friends being like this - although, of course, how would I know?
Tori is also far too self-obsessed for my liking. I couldn't possibly have a decent relationship with her. I can't be doing with people who are such hard work. Everything had to revolve around her and that's just exhausting.
I gave this book 2 stars on Goodreads.
Many thanks to Netgalley for providing me with a copy of this book in exchange for an honest review

What an awful person Tori appears to be at first, a product of the social media generation, as are most of her friends.
But it ended up that she was wiser than any of us.
I went from really disliking her, to cheering her on, wanting her to do the right thing (no spoilers here!)
Although I’m a lot older than Tori, I can completely identify with a lot in this book - IS a bird in the hand worth two in the bush?
So, well done, Ms Bourne, you’ve written a novel of our strange, social media obsessed days, and it’s a good one.

I've loved all of Holly Bourne's Young Adult novels so I was so excited to read her first foray into adult fiction. How Do You Like Me Now is a Bridget Jones-eqsue tale for the internet age where how many likes you get on Instagram and followers you have on Twitter dictates your level of success in life.
Following the love-to-hate Tori on a voyage through her early thirties, we watch her as she falls into a pit of confusion and insecurity about, well, everything. All of her friends are married and having babies yet she can't even get her long term boyfriend Tom to touch her as much as he touches their pet, Cat. As a successful author who has made her career from pretending to know what the hell is going on, Tori finds that actually maybe she hasn't got a bloody clue and everyone is just muddling their way through life as best they can. With a sharp, witty plot and a whole host of hilarious characters, How Do You Like Me Know is set to be a BIG THING. I devoured it in 24 hours and I can only hope that Holly will revisit the character of Tori again one day. I loved it!

I really didn’t know what to expect when I started reading this, I thought ok, this is a story of a devastating loss of a child and how the main character overcomes her grief.’ But, what I got was so much more.
Maggie lost everything and started her new life in a new place just to exist not expecting anything from anyone. After a few years, she gains the respect of people who know nothing of her past and due to a massive media frenzy which surrounds a new friend, her past comes to the forefront. This is how she survives her unimaginable loss and at the same time shares her ability of understanding other people’s feelings and acceptance of who she is now and gradually letting family, her ex and friends from the past back into her life. A thought provoking, emotional journey of loss and forgiveness.
One negative; I found in the beginning, the descriptions were too long winded and at times repetitive and I kept losing interest, but I’m so glad I stuck with it. I look forward to reading more of this author’s work.

You know, I didn’t know what I was going to end up making of How Do You Like Me Now. I’ve heard of Holly Bourne, obviously, because I do not live under a rock and her Am I Normal Yet has been on my TBR forever. I read The Manifesto on How To Be Interesting and honestly, it and I didn't click like I thought we might and yet, when I heard she was branching out into adult fiction I was intrigued.
How Do You Like Me Now is getting a lot of hype, and lots of positive feedback and I looked into it a little bit and thought it sounded like something I’d be interested in and so I decided that actually yes – this was a bandwagon I wanted to be on, please, and I gave it a go. I am a publicists dream, I swear: I have such bad bookish FOMO.
I am exceptionally glad that I do though, because I would have been so sad to have missed this one.
Here’s the thing: this book feels like it could have been written for me. For me; about me. I mean actually. I read the blurb and I imagined my own life at the start of my 30’s and wow.
Hang on a little minute, let me do a little copy-paste of the blurb.
Turning thirty is like playing musical chairs. The music stops, and everyone just marries whoever they happen to be sitting on.’ Who the f*ck is Tori Bailey?There’s no doubt that Tori is winning the game of life. A straight-talking, bestselling author, she’s inspired millions of women around the world with her self-help memoir. And she has the perfect relationship to boot.But Tori Bailey has been living a lie.Her long-term boyfriend won’t even talk about marriage, but everyone around her is getting engaged and having babies. And when her best friend Dee – her plus one, the only person who understands the madness – falls in love, suddenly Tori’s in terrifying danger of being left behind.When the world tells you to be one thing and turning thirty brings with it a loud ticking clock, it takes courage to walk your own path.It’s time for Tori to practice what she’s preached, but the question is: is she brave enough?The debut adult novel by bestselling author Holly Bourne is a blisteringly funny, honest and moving exploration of love, friendship and navigating the emotional rollercoaster of your thirties.
Wow. I mean, this bit:
Her long-term boyfriend won’t even talk about marriage, but everyone around her is getting engaged and having babies. And when her best friend Dee – her plus one, the only person who understands the madness – falls in love, suddenly Tori’s in terrifying danger of being left behind.When the world tells you to be one thing and turning thirty brings with it a loud ticking clock, it takes courage to walk your own path.
That was my life, guys, until a few years ago: I was in this relationship with this guy that I had invested years of my life in, who kept professing to love me, who wouldn’t talk commitment but who still dangled the carrot of marriage and babies so that I kept on holding on, not wanting to leave because I believed he did love me really and because I had put so much into the whole thing and I didn’t want to be the girl that failed at love whilst everyone else succeeded around me (and wow was everyone else succeeding) but never ever really knowing quite where I stood, or, by the end, what I even wanted or who I was. It was a strange time, with lots of intense feelings and a constant knot in my chest.
So much of what Holly Bourne writes in this book, about Tori and Tom, about the way Tori feels, her issues with food, struck a chord with me, hit me right in the messed up relationship feels. They even have a cat, which she sometimes thinks he loves more than he loves her. OH HELLO. The thing about situations like this one is that you kind of don’t realise how much you’re kidding yourself it’s all ok until you can look back at it from the marvellous vantage point of actually being ok.
Seriously: that whole wanting it so badly because you were being teased by it – because it was being offered and taken away and hinted at but always later later later, and because you could see everybody else getting it and because somehow you thought that was what your life was supposed to look like, whilst at the same time having this niggling feeling that you might be better of out of it that you’re worth more than this, it’s the worst and this book gets that, it totally lands smack bang in the middle of those feelings in a brutally honest way and I LOVE it.
And whilst I want this to be a book review and not a dissection of my previous life, I need to mention the parallels to make the point: this book made me feel like there was somebody out there who got it, who got me.
It hit a nerve, it hit all the nerves and which sort of makes it hard to say that I enjoyed it from start to finish because let’s be real here: it’s hard to relax into a story that has you feeling like you’re under a microscope – but I am so glad that I read it and I feel so much better for it; I suspect I won’t be the only one who comes way from it feeling this way either which makes me think that perhaps this book is one that needed to be written. It felt authentic – Tori and Tom’s relationship, the way she reacted to it, the getting drunk, the lashing out, the being filled with regret after the lashing out, the not being able to see past being in this relationship, the fear that if she can’t make this work she’ll never make anything work and will just be alone, the subtle ways in which Tom manipulated her emotions, it felt authentic.
Reading this book felt like a catharsis.
If other people come away from it feeling like I did – which is to say kind of validated and reassured that I was not the crazy needy person I was made to feel like I was at the time (oh hi there subtle gaslighting wow) – then that is a good and excellent thing. I feel better for reading this book. I feel better about what happened then and I feel better about who I am now and I don’t know, is that a weird thing to take away from a work of fiction? Perhaps it is, but there you have it: I do feel better. I think most people will find something to relate to here, honestly: if you’re a woman that is single or dating or in a long-term relationship, if you have children or want children or don’t want children, there’s something here for you and the way the book tackles friendships made me feel all the things.
There’s also a really excellent thread running through the book about social media and the impact it has on our mental state and again: YES.
It perfectly highlighted how toxic social media can be – how it can shape our perceptions of ourselves and everybody around us and how often those perceptions are skewed. (I cannot even tell you how much better I felt after deactivating my Facebook account last year) and I really liked how that played out and how it was worked into the story. Clever plot device is clever.
I’ve seen it compared to Bridget Jones this book and you know, I get it; I wouldn’t be at all surprised if it enjoyed something close to that level of success. In the way people related to Bridget Jones in the late 1990s (and I loved her, but I was in high school when I first read the book, and 18 when the film came out which meant I could love her for her without having to reflect on what her story said about my own life) I defy anybody in their early 30’s not to see something of themselves in Tori now - although she’s not as likeable as Bridget. That kind of makes her more real though, the way she’s a but of a dick. You root for her because she’s a bit of a dick. She’s human and so are you.
I devoured this book, I devoured it and I laughed and I loved it and I finished wondering what was going to happen next for Tori. I’m okay now, I’m not with that guy anymore and I’ve moved on. I’m settled and happy and I have a great guy in my life and I’m finding a way to leave all those insecurities behind me; I hope that she is too.
How Do You Like Me Now is out in June. You can pre-order a copy though and I totally think you should.