I am familiar with Emma Reed Turrell’s work from listening to her podcast Best Friend Therapy. I enjoy reading ‘self help’ type books ~ this one focuses on how to stop being a people pleaser and ultimately look after yourself better. I thought this was an interesting read, some parts of it more so than others but I think there is always something (from self help books) that you can take and apply to your own life,

Such a good helping self-care book I really enjoyed it and think I will be definitely trying some of the strategies too help me I'm my everyday life

Stop Pleasing!
This is a book that can identify if you are suffering from 'pleaser syndrome'.
The writer is a trained Therapist whose observations are based on her work with clients. She identifies, quite correctly that Modern day living has increased pressures on the individual and if they are 'Pleasers' these pressures can create havoc.
Citing numerous examples, she offers insight and provides anecdotes.
The author writes well and at times the book is quite amusing. However, readers from close-knit family backgrounds possibly may find this book at odds with their way of life. Nevertheless, Please Yourself is an eye-opener and the author has the benefit of drawing inferences from real individuals.

A book that will make you consider whether you are a people pleaser (many of us are), giving you insight into why we are like this, and what we can do about it.

How do we change, without feeling we are offending or upsetting others? The answers are in this book.

Well worth a read if you know or if you think, you may be a people pleaser.

A good read into the behavior of others or yourself whilst being a people pleaser. I think a lot of people will resonate with what information is within the book. A helpful insight to why people are the way they are. A few tips with an over all message ., to put yourself first and the rest will fall into place!

The title of this book jumped out at me, and I knew this book was one for me!
However, the book itself was lacking any substance and was very dull.
I wanted more advice and tips that I could put into practice, but I just felt that Emma Reed Turrell was writing about previous patients and their stories.
Not what I was wanting, and not what I expected. Disappointed!

This book will teach you how to be you. We all know how it feels to want people to like us, to approve of us, to accept us. It’s part of what makes us human. And there’s nothing wrong with wanting to support other people and help them satisfy their needs.

I found this book to be extremely useful and eye-opening. I’ll definitely be referring back to it in the future, and would recommend it to anyone. For anyone who is like me and suffers from anxiety and the struggle to say no, this book is so helpful and makes you feel as though you are not alone.

This is a first for me by the author and one I enjoyed and would read more of their work. The book cover is eye-catching and appealing and would spark my interest if in a bookshop. Thank you very much to the author, publisher and Netgalley for this ARC.

I received a free copy of this book from Netgalley in exchange for an honest review – thanks as always to Netgalley for sending this to me!

Please Yourself is a self-help book basically made for me. People-pleasing has been an issue for me for basically my entire adult life, and honestly, I’m tired of it. I find myself constantly bending over backwards to please other people, to the benefit of no one – it breeds contempt in others and resentment in myself. When this book came up on my Netgalley feed, it seemed sent specifically for me. I’ve never found self-help books to be massively useful before, but this one really struck a chord with me.

Emma Turrell is a therapist by trade, and as such, this book is a combination of advice, suggestions, and anecdotes that all help you to examine your people-pleasing tendencies and challenge them head-on. It’s full of actionable advice and offers suggestions or even scripts of how to handle difficult situations, which I find massively helpful. As someone who struggles with conflict, having some rote responses suggested to me struck me as really helpful. Now I don’t have to find the words to extricate myself from people-pleasing situations, because some have already been provided for me!

It’s strange, but I think that I’ve almost been searching for permission to displease people. Something that’s emphasized in this book is that it’s okay if people don’t like you, if your actions are an inconvenience, if you don’t choose to make someone else’s life easier, that it doesn’t make you a bad person. It’s silly, because so much of what was written in this book was common sense, and yet I feel like I just needed someone to point it out to me. I remember going to my sibling and saying in awe “It’s okay if someone doesn’t like me.” Meanwhile they rolled their eyes at me like “duh.” There were lots of little moments in this book, where a seemingly obvious truth bonked me on the head. People-pleasing is ultimately a selfish act! It’s about managing other people to avoid a reaction you don’t want! It’s manipulative! All of which makes me feel better about not doing it. Even the simple act of reading the book, before I’d even finished it, encouraged me to start working on anti-people-pleasing strategies.

Not everything in this book was applicable to me – there was a section about child-raising that I largely skimmed, given that one pleasing impulse I have and will never surrender to is having kids to appease my mother, and a section on people pleasers who’ve been socialised as male – but even the stuff that didn’t necessarily fit me had things in it that could still be taken note of. The writing style is also very simple and accessible, which meant that no part of the reading experience was a chore. Everything here was digestible and easy to understand.

Overall, I found this book to be extremely useful and eye-opening – more so than I expected, honestly. I’ll definitely be referring back to it in the future, and here’s hoping that the lessons will stick with me and foil more of my pleasing tendencies in the future!

Please Yourself - Emma Reed Turrell

Being a total people pleaser I was very intrigued by this book. I thought the pace of the book was great with some great stories to back up ideas and kept my interest throughout, and has really given me plenty to think about. Many thanks to NetGalley and Fourth Estate for giving me the opportunity to read and review this title.

Please yourself is a sequel written by the author to target a section of society affectionately known as people pleasers. I consider myself a member of this group.

This book spoke so clearly to me and identified the reasons for being the way I am. Why do I seek approval from others?

I loved the flow of the book and the examples given throughout.

This is not a ‘read once’ sort of book. For me, this will be referenced for years to come. People pleasing isn’t a quick fix but this book will definitely help me.

Thank you NetGalley and publisher for my advanced copy of this book in exchange for an honest review 📚

A wonderful helpful read a book that cures you from being a people pleaser.There are lessons guides thoughtful ideas on how to treasure yourself care for yourself and learn to say no.#netgalley #4thestate