I received an ARC of this book from Netgalley in exchange for an honest review.

The book chronicles the author's experiences with narcissistic individuals. It is one-sided and doesn't give detailed information.

WOW!!!!!! Sadly, this book was so relatable on many different levels. Dickey did an amazing job of compiling these real-life encounters of narcissistic abuse into a book that many others will, unfortunately, be able to identify with. Heartbreaking in every way imaginable but a must-read for others experiencing this.

Sadly, this book was not what I was expecting at all. It was more written like a memoir than anything. Two stars.

This read more like a dairy, I would have enjoyed it more in that style format with more resonance touches. As is it reads boring, and just guy 1 guy2, which makes me think did she not learn. With a mother then husband I fought their narc abuse - that is what makes it worse. But I can’t get another mother, but I know not to ignore the red flags in a man again to accumulate 6+ or something. Or does she just use this label on ever wrong relationship

Real Events of Narcissistic Abuse is not the book I thought it was going to be. I don't think it is about narcissistic abuse at all. It is a biography of a very troubled life mixed up with a lot of highly religious content. I won't be reading anymore of it. The author has a lot of anger and blame to dish out but I don't think it relates to narcissistic abuse. The publisher needs to take a good look at the content of this book and the title.

In real Events of narcissistic abuse by Michelle Dickie, Well when I first started reading it the first thing I thought is this lady has an ax to grind and not only that some of the information she gives is incorrect. Such as narcissist being clumsy, not having their stuff together and never being successful. She also plainly states that all narcissist are really just demons. I’ve learned in life that when someone has a list of dysfunctional relationships the one thing they should focus on and is the common denominator and that is them. Not Michelle Dickey though she blamed demons and narcissism for her own choices and follies. For example when the married man’s wife that she was dating, put her down and told her she wasn’t good enough to take her husband she labeled this is gaslighting. Gaslighting is when someone tries to make you feel like you are crazy but this isn’t the only instance as I said above where she takes it upon herself to negate the fact God gave us all free will including her and that not everyone who dislikes her has mental issues. she even claims someone who is suffering from the Jezebel spirit, another ex-boyfriend boost her while she was sleeping. She said she would wake up with bruises on her and try to investigate throughout the house as to where these bruises originated and when he told her it would happen when she was drinking she quickly dispel this thought and went on to blame the boyfriend. I could go on and on, but my biggest thing is that throughout the book she claims to be a Christian and that’s great if she loves God that’s great I love God to, but I know God gave us free will and I almost feel offended that despite she claims to be a Christian and in the book she has multiple out of marriage relationships, she drinks and only God knows what else she does. You can’t pick and choose the sins you commit and if you’re going to be an example to others you should be the example God wants you to as a Christian, but having said all that these relationships are still ongoing as far as I could tell by the end of the book. I can’t say I recommend this book but I do appreciate net galley and the author Michelle Dickie for giving me this copy and everything I’ve stated in my review is voluntary. Please forgive any grammar or punctuation errors as I am blind and dictate my review but all opinions are definitely my own.

First, what I liked: The Book’s Cover. Intriguing - expecting a self-help, and perhaps some fascinating gems of relevant information to be revealed.

Second, what I didn’t like: This book is a hot mess!! Starting with the author getting herself involved at the age of 17 sleeping with a married man. (She accuses his wife as the one being a narcissistic abuser because of hurling insults at her.) From here, she gets involved in one relationship after another - (nine different relationships) and she calls each and every relationship (either the boyfriend, husband, roommate, co-worker, or someone in the person’s family) a narcissistic abuser, abusing her with narcissist verbal abuse. Yet, now in her 30’s, she still associates with the same kind of people?? (And claims being naive in one case in that she didn’t see the red flags?)

Yes, ok, she alludes broadly to arguments, insults, selfish, and immature people galore in this book, and says there's a number pattern to it... (3-6-9... loosely based on time that the abuse is supposedly seen), but to label everyone a narcissist who SHE didn’t get along with? Who doesn't accept her relationship with son, co-worker, etc.? The multiple individuals she broke up with as well coworkers or roommates who didn’t like or agree with her, and then started to ignore her or just say she wasn't welcome in their company? I want to say more as to my personal thoughts on this, but I’ll choose to zip my lip here. 🤐

By actual definition of the word "narcissist", (having an undue fascination with oneself; vain. tending to derive erotic gratification from admiration of one's own physical or mental attributes) - honestly, I’m NOT seeing it on the individuals whom the author labels as narcissistic (in 9 chapters), and passes the title and judgement on, in the name of God. (Yes, her relationship with God is a big part to writing this book to save others from these situations). To me, her writing and accusations were totally inaccurate regarding the word narcissistic based on the author's own description of accounts, an in fact disturbing, if one has the ability to label a situation with such a serious word that carries immense connotation. He who casts the first stone…. Sad, really.

Thanks to NetGalley for an ARC in exchange for my honest review.