I went into this book, hoping to learn something new. Alas, that did not happen! It was, however, an easy read and if you have time to kill and nothing else to read then maybe this could be an option. Otherwise, I wouldn’t recommend it.

This is an interesting topic and it’s natural that daughters bond well with their mothers. The author who is also a doctor reminds us that mothers aren’t perfect and should not carry guilt. The topics are heavy and she shares stories from her patients. It’s easy to read and somewhat relatable. Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher for a copy.

An interesting which gets you thinking. Thanks to Netgalley and the publisher for letting me review this book

The synopsis of this book sounded right up my street, however I really really hated the reading experience of this book.

The book was just all over the place, think it tried to do too many things so therefore just didn't really do anything successfully.
I did not get anything from this, and just feel like I wasted my time reading.

As a therapist that works with new mothers, the topic of their mother's is an important one. I have been working hard to find resources around intergenerational trauma and how it impacts our experience of motherhood. This was one of those helpful resources that will be very beneficial to my practice. I believe there was a little bumpiness when it came to translation but overall, a valuable read from an author that has a tremendous amount of experience.

Thank you for the ARC!

This is a few days delayed review, because 1: this is the first none child book I did read, and 2: the family and myself did take a few days to enjoy each others company. - thinking about it, you will have to thank this exact book for this! -

Wow, just wow! what an intense book to read, especially because I did not expect it. This book has really changed my perspective on the relationship I have with my parents, the relationship I am creating with my two children and my husband. It is written in a easy and clear way to understand, the examples are exceptionally relatable and my world really did turn on its axis!

As everything is so easy flowing while reading, I forgot about everything around me and I felt the weight of my shoulders being lifted, as things suddenly made sense! Don’t get me wrong, I really do not hate or dislike my mother, I love her very much, however our relationship has not always been the best. I understand it better now and learning/changing my behaviour towards my own two children.

Therefore, 고맙습니다 (thank you) Woo-ran Park!

5 out of 5 stars

Why did I read this book? Because I had a hard relationship with my mother as I grew up, and even a little but of that remains today. The first 30% of it seemed to be making sense, until I realised that it does not cater to the experiences of the average reader.. It is certainly an interesting read, but one you will want to think about carefully, and not try to apply to each situation in your life.

I enjoyed reading this as a different take on motherhood. Importantly, that none of us are perfect. We always see someone else we think is a better mother than us but know they too have their struggles.
I think many of us blame out mothers for our issues and this book discusses this and how much of an effect our parents have on us as adults.
There are many types of parents covered in this book along with stories the reader can relate to which keeps the book from feeling overly clinical.
I recommend this book to all mothers young and old along with women who feel inadequate or that have issues currently or in the past with their own mother.

I was glad that I was alone over the weekend I read this. I came from a family where my parents were very dysfunctional and felt my life was scarred by my mother's (especially) very cruel treatment of me. I sobbed reading this ,it truly broke my heart but by the end I did feel perhaps a little more understanding of her and a bit more forgiving of myself. I will read this again when I feel less raw.

As someone who dealt with a difficult and complicated relationship with her mum growing up this was a
great book to help process emotions and learn to accept and communicate better

Mother is Mother, Daughter is Daughter”

- A self-recovery guide for all of mothers and daughters by a psychoanalytic expert

- How mothers can reclaim their lives as an independent woman and human being

Why do mothers turn more to their daughters than sons when feeling upset or distressed? Why do mothers look upon their happily married daughters with not just pride but a hint of jealousy? Why do daughters, when thinking about their mothers, feel gratitude as well as guilt and resentment?

We need to lose our mothers to find ourselves. And we need to find ourselves for our daughters to live their own lives. Park Woo Ran, a psychoanalytic expert who for more than ten years has conducted over 10,000 psychotherapy and dream interpretation sessions, reaches deep into psychology research and case studies to unlock the secret behind the love-hate relationship between mothers and daughters and explain how we can protect our girls from this emotional wounding across generations.

This deep psychological bond between the mother and daughter starts to show cracks as they become older, introducing problems, both big and small, into their lives. Feelings of obsession, bitterness, resentment, longing, and gratitude get rolled into one and make the two oscillate between love and hate. In short, the mother and daughter have failed to create a healthy distance between themselves.

Then what can we do? Park says we should question the social concept of unconditional motherly love and try to bring to surface the mom’s deeply-buried wants and desires as a woman. Only then can we forge a path different from our mother’s and our daughters live a different life from our young selves.

THEN GET THE BOOK NOW! and start growing your skills to strengthen your relationships between MOMs and DAUGHTERs!