This was a hard read for as I understood things talked about on a level more than I thought I would But glad I read it as I’ve learnt a new topic and more about myself

4/5

Thanks for the ARC

I had better expectations for Daughters Healing from Family Mobbing. There were some helpful advice inside but some that I was not agreeing with which may be of difference of my situations.
Three stars.

As the first daughter and first child in a large family, I found this very relatable!
I think it's also important to read it as a parent to understand the unconcious dynamics that we create and enable amongst siblings.

Thank you NetGalley for the chance to read this book!

While I was approved I was unable to download and read the book in time! I will be purchasing it to read if and in the meantime will leave it 4 stars which seems to be the average.

I really enjoyed this book. As a daughter who was traumatized by her mother, this book hit home. I wasn’t aware of the trauma in other cultures. I learned so much and will work on breaking the cycle of trauma

I loved the image towards the end of picturing grief as a flood. Waiting for years until the waters recede, so you can walk through the flower-lined streets and reflect on how high the waterline rose, explaining to loved ones how you managed to survive, and what you had to go through to get through to this day of peace, and recognising your own strength. It's a beautiful image and I'm thankful for this book. A lot of it is extremely difficult to read, and most chapters felt more academic than practical, but there were those sections that spoke beautifully to grief, loss and pain, and I definitely want to remember the points on reframing victimhood into a personal trauma narrative.

(2.5 stars)
"At some point, the daughters said, 'No more' to the abuse and control, and the family's response was 'Get out—you're dead to us now." This book sets out to describe a form of gender-based violence the author terms family mobbing. The author, Stephanie A. Sellers, has lived expertise of this form of "daughter-centred family aggression" and uses a bunch of short quotes from others to set out her case. Sellers separates it from domestic and family violence as it's primarily, in her opinion, mother-led and targeted at daughters. She does however make space for LGBTQI rejection or ostracism. Sellers ties this practice to gender inequality: "All the family behaviors I researched stem from cultures that value males more than females and thus punish girls and women if they do not submit to their second-class status, and that includes the United States."

Coming from Australia where we already have a concept of domestic and family violence that includes other family members stemming from Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander knowledge and the experiences of migrant women with dowry abuse and other forms of extended family violence, I found it hard to see how this form of violence as separate or unique. At one point the difference seemed to be it was all family members at once, but then there was an illustration from an LGBTQI person used that was only shunned by some family members who held discriminatory beliefs.

Overall, I found the writing pedestrian and rambling, the theory light, the snippets from people with lived expertise other than the author were too seldomly employed. It felt more like a self-help book aimed at American women who had been shunned by their families as adults with tips for how they might heal.

I found this non fiction read, informative, and full of factual accounts that are likely to be relatable to more readers than I originally thought before reading this book.

Astonishingly, the facts within these pages make it so hard to believe in this modern world, life is still so different for some, and despite the evidence that it shows, the violence and aggression directed towards females within a family unit, social or cultural groups, is more common that the average person would like to believe.

The awareness that this book brings to the reader is priceless and should be shouted from the rooftops. It needs to be added to the curriculum for educational objectives and to provide safety in conversation.

I shifted from heartbreak to anger throughout, and although it does make for a very emotionally charged read, I’m so grateful to have been given the opportunity to read it.

This.would make an ideal book club read as it will undoubtedly prompt a lot of conversation and is a subject that unquestionably needs to be spoken openly about.

I cannot recommend this book enough and for the sake of ALL the daughters out there, please pre-order a copy today!

I learned so much reading Daughters Healing from Family Mobbing by Stephanie A. Sellers, PhD. This well-researched informative book defines family mobbing as what happens when a daughter in the family is ostracized and estranged, often times due to lack of adherence to spoken or unspoken rules within the family. Stephanie provides a well researched, historical framework to help readers understand the roots of family mobbing and the violence endured overall, across cultures and global boundaries, by girls. She does a phenomenal job of exploring the risk factors that make girls in particular vulnerable to harm and provides mental health resources, book recommendations, and additional statistics to support her arguments.

Thank you so much to the publisher and author for the e-arc copy!

Daughter Healing from Family Mobbing by Stephanie A. Sellers, PHD was a much needed book for me at the perfect time. I really think this will help a lot of folks with the trauma dealt to them by their parent(s) and families. I will definitely be buying a hard copy so I can annotate.