Loved this. I really enjoyed everything about this. I loved the story completely. It will stay with me for a long time. I appreciate that the author has very strong voice - one I really enjoy.

Thank you to the publisher and author for providing a copy of this book in exchange for an honest review. This book was FASCINATING! I loved this social history that was chock full of primary source materials brought back to life.

3.5 Stars

Very well researched (the references make up half the page count!), its repeat readibility suffers as we trudge through the parade of legal cases and newspaper articles. It's not a boring book per se, but I would've personally preferred this heavy subject to be tackled in a more effervescent and witty manner.

Oh well! To witness the foibles of human nature and women being screwed over by the legal system over and over again.

Thank you Netgalley and Steerforth for a copy of this book for review purposes. All thoughts and opinions are my own

This book isn't exactly what I expected, not gonna lie. I thought it would be specific stories of couples who married for reasons other than love. Instead, it was just a broad history of arranged marriage or marriages of convenience. And it was really dry and hard to slog through. There were a lot of quotes and direct citations of period text which was difficult to read at times. I think paraphrasing may have been a better option.

This is an interesting history of marriage, particularly of marriage for reasons other than love. From marriages of convenience to marriages to gain riches, this covers all sorts of exploitation of the institution of marriage.

This book was OK. There are better overviews of the historical and sociological implications of marriage. It was enjoyable and I recommend it to anyone interested in the topic.

In this short history of the legalities of marriage in the United States, Zug takes us through how marriage as an institution has shifted over the centuries and how the many reasons for marrying for something other than love, such money, status, or legal benefits, played its part in that.

Coming from a culture where marriage is considered an essential step of adulthood and is still sometimes arranged by one’s parents, I never really thought much about it, or why the legal institution of marriage is conflicts with the concept of marrying for love. I had expected perhaps a breezy discussion of a series of case studies, but what I got was a more serious contemplation of the intertwining of marriage, law, and women’s rights – not what I was looking for, maybe, but something I definitely liked better.

You’ll Do is divided into chapters which discuss different reasons why people get married apart from love, such as wealth, status, or even a defense against criminal charges. The main thrust of Zug’s argument is that inequality between man and wife is inevitable due to the way marriage is currently enshrined in the law. On the other hand, her argument is not against marriage itself – far from it. But to rely on love between spouses to make sure each is treated fairly is not a viable solution, especially considering marriage for non-love reasons is still fairly common around the world.

There’s a surprising amount of information and analysis packed into a fairly slim volume, using a number of historical examples and court cases to demonstrate Zug’s points. Despite the density of information though, her clear and concise manner of writing meant I never felt lost at sea. I certainly learned a lot more about the legal side of marriage than I was expecting, as well as how the rights that married people are entitled to are still evolving to this very day.

One mistake I made when I picked this book up was not realising that the content was about the United States and its past. For some strange reason, I felt like there might have been a more international spin to it. I have been reading a lot more non-fiction nowadays than I once did and this was a topic I was interested in. 

This book reads like true non-fiction with less commentary and more facts (that eventually lead somewhere). Newspaper articles and lawsuits have been cited to provide context to the topic itself.

Each chapter has a primary talking point, and the author then goes into further detail about the roles society and the government played in the unfolding of events. The author concludes with a brief commentary on how all the details we see are held together and what they mean to the overall system at large.

There were some stories that were more startling than others. Although some of the points drawn seem obvious, they are not ones that people usually face up to. This book focuses on how laws and societal behaviour in the US have moulded the concept of marriage and how that is again reflected back on the current state of things.

There are a lot of stories in the book, and I took my time getting all the way through. I liked the book, but it may not be one I will find myself delving into again.

I received an ARC thanks to NetGalley and the publishers but the review is entirely based on my own reading experience.

This book has the unfortunate distinguishment of being the book that's lingered the longest in my NetGalley queue, and that's because it is boring. I never gave up on it - it was something to return to when I was irritated with another book I was reading and needed a break, or when I was too tired to focus on a book I really liked and just needed to read a little something before falling asleep, and one time when I got higher than I meant to and found myself unexpectedly fascinated by the way the words on the page made tiny squares (???).

The entire structure of this book is as follows -

Chapter Whatever: You've heard about this type of marriage situation before, and yep, it's a thing that happens! Here are a couple of anecdotes about early occurrences of this. Pretty gnarly right? Here are a number of court cases where that went REALLY badly. Damn, seems like society is pretty shitty to women. You hate to see it. Here are some relevant cool illustrations!

Popping off a three star because it wasn't BAD, really, I did like the illustrations a lot and the fact that women get dicked over by societal institutions is, if not scalding hot tea, still something it doesn't hurt to be reminded of lest we get complacent. I think I just prefer my non-fiction books to have a little more narrative excitement going on, and the subject itself wasn't fascinating enough to me to overcome the relatively dry style. But hook all your divorcée friends up with a copy for sure, and then go out, get drunk, and toast to being single, baby.

My thanks to Steerforth and NetGalley for the ARC.

I am not normally a nonfiction reader. At all. This book happened to catch my eye and I’m so glad it did! Zug did a deep dive into such a basic idea and made it so interesting. The addition of her own family’s stories, along with pop culture references to better picture things, were a great addition.

Thanks to NETGALLEY and Steerforth for access to this title. All opinions expressed are my own.

A non fiction read for my last day of January. Marcia A.Zug presents a throughly crafted examination of marriage laws and court cases in the history of the United States from the 18th century to the present day. Illustrations and detailed citations accompany the themes written below.

The chapters included in this book are

1. The Marital Bargain

2. The Government Loves a Gold Digger

3. The Power Couple: Marrying for Status and Power

4.The Marriage Defense

5. The Married Parent

6.Marrying for Money Part Deux


Aside from being interested in the content, my reaction to this book is that sometimes it was hard to stomach the facts. This book could also have been subtitled "What lawmakers have put people through and how they barely survived."


Publication Date 09/01/24
Goodreads review published 01/02/24

#YoullDo #NetGalley.

This book was just “meh” for me. I felt like I was reading it because I had to finish it instead of reading it because I wanted to finish it. I can’t quite put my finger on what it was.

A wonderfully eye-opening and well-researched journey into the laws and social rules that have dictated marriage and love. Easily readable and clearly well sourced.

Thanks to NetGalley and the publisher for this arc in exchange for an honest review.

This isn't my usual genre of book but I was intrigued by the concept and perspective of this book. I probably wouldn't read it again but I did enjoy the book. I liked that some of the authors conclusions were backed up by real life court cases and newspaper articles as it helped to give more depth and showed that the author had clearly done some research into making this book as informative as possible.

I'm not sure if it has put me off marriage but made you think about the whole constitution of marriage in a lot more depth than I ever have,

I really enjoyed this. I learnt so much and it forced me to look more into the equivalent law or belief here in the uk.

Insightful and surprising…

Inspired by her aunt’s own marital situation, the author created a fact-filled, surprising view of the constitution of marriage through United States history. I always considered marriage, at the heart, to be about the heart in some way or another. This book offers a more insightful opinion, providing an abundance of proof that economics and practicality – and surprisingly the legal system – have influenced marriage equally, if not more profoundly, than love itself.

From broken engagements to long-standing marriages, a legally-binding relationship began or ended in many different ways. There was usually an emotional stake but there were also ramifications on reputation, economics and even legal status. How public opinion and the laws of the land had their own influence was, at times, surprising and (honestly) shocking. Living in a country that values freedom as much as in the U.S., my eyes were definitely opened.

And I didn’t have to take this author’s word for it as there were dozens if not hundreds references and citations to provide evidence. An eye-opener, socially and culturally significant book that was as factual as it was entertaining.

Marriage is such an interesting topic to read about and I love the premise of this book focusing specifically on reasons we have gotten married throughout history. What a fun read!

"You'll Do" is an interesting overview over non-love-reasons for marriage and how they have changed and stayed the same throughout the years.

I really liked this book: the writing style worked for me, the case studies were interesting, and I would love to read something like it for my own country.

Thank you to the author, Steerforth and NetGalley, for an ARC in exchange for an honest review.

The blurb on this is the first clue that language matters: the book looks at the institution of marriage in a uniquely American context - I highly doubt that (as the blurb states) marriage is a uniquely American institution. Parts of this were fascinating, in terms of looking at the historical importance and development of the concept of marriage. Overall, it was a bit dry and uneven - too many footnotes that are hard to follow, and yet too general to actually be scholarly. Part of my problem was that I was expecting something with at least a tinge of lightheartedness, and this was notably absent. Overall, informative and clearly written by an author who is passionate about their subject.

"The Government loves a gold digger", states the title of Chapter Two here, of a book showing the reasons other than amour that get someone in the marital bed, and the pernicious social, governmental and financial reasons that actually backed up and encouraged that kind of thing. Now, the first chapter had looked into the real gold diggers – both the men trying to gain possession of a rich woman's wealth, seeing as he would generally have control of it upon marriage, and the women trying to latch on to and keep, spend or plain purloin the loot of a man. But this chapter two starts with the bride saying "I do" to gain a war pension, often with generations between them in age. One such woman promptly married her old fella's grandson when the coast was clear.

After that we see the social engineering involved in getting women, settled men and families into Iowa, Oregon and other states – surely something few histories of marriage have worried over. And that's by no means the only time and way people have been forced to marry for purposes of movement – single women would never have been allowed into the USA after WWI, but put a ring on it and it was a lot easier.

Elsewhere there are benefits, both financial and otherwise, thrown at married people. Tax benefits are one thing, the right to not have your spouse testify against you in a murder case is another. People actively sexually humiliating co-workers of the same gender at work have gotten away with it because of their hetero spouse back at home. All the while, the married people get the status, benefits and rights, and the singletons amongst us get lower status, more demeaning opinions about us, and fewer rights. Some people have been unable to get a discrimination claim when a work-place relationship has raised potential issues, that would not have batted any eyelids had a certain certificate been present.

And the whole shebang can worryingly concern other people if, as shown here, people remarry to get custody rights of previous offspring over now-single exes, or if people are forced into marriage to qualify for adoption or artificial insemination plans.

This was pretty much all I could have expected from this. It is academical – dig the scale of the notes keeping the core of the book so readable – and yet not without humour. I had feared it would be stultifyingly USA-only, and while it practically is all concerning American laws, lawsuits and cases, it is still enjoyable to read. Oh and if you are ever short of snide wedding gifts, this is the deal – this is ever interesting, even if so many instances pepper these pages of people you just would not want to be, or marry. Four and a half stars.