A very honest depiction of how a wife can lose herself in a marriage by the self serving actions of her husband. All the way through I kept thinking she should leave, but it was the hateful husband who abandoned her!

'A nuclear family can destroy a woman artist. I’d always known that. But I’d never suspected how easily I’d fall into one anyway.'

Oh my god, this book. I read it in an afternoon and my whole body got tenser and tenser as I did. It's an excoriating, incisive post-mortem of a marriage: who is complicit, who is harmed, and how it all falls apart. Jane is an author who believes that marrying John, a charismatic artist, will insulate her from the traps of domesticity. After all, they're both artists. But even while she manages to write novel after novel, John, threatened by her success, narrows and narrows the scope of her life: he repeatedly bankrupts them, drags them from city to city and, after they have a child, is practically absent. But the worst part is the gaslighting, by which he convinces Jane that her needs are abnormal and her company is unwelcome. I was struck, over and over, by the brilliance of the author in creating two completely believable people. John doesn't realise what he's doing, not fully, and neither does Jane until it's too late. But in this portrait of a marriage, I was on the edge of my seat waiting for it all to crumble. What an incredible book.

An escape into the oil’s and breakdown of a marriage. I found this difficult going and was just not a book for me

This hugely depressing portrait of a marriage is well written and a fast read. The main stumbling block for me was the character of John, the husband, who was so clearly selfish, unlikeable and obnoxious, that I couldn’t imagine why anyone would go out with them for any length of time, let alone marry them. Felt quite furious for the first bit of the novel, then got into the writing style (it is bleakly funny at times).

Unfortunately, I really disliked this book. The writing is very disjointed and, although I am very aware that this is intentional, I couldn’t connect with it.
The narrative centres on a married woman who details in candid detail (but without any description or flow) years of alleged abuse and gaslighting. The novel read more like random diary entries than an actual story and this is perhaps why I failed to connect with it. There was a definite lack of momentum; again, this was probably intentional, but it lacked something for me.
I am sure opinions Will be divided and others will love this book!

The only word I feel is apt for this book is stunning. It did take me a couple of tries to get into as I wasn't used to reading books like this. Short paragraphs and chapters, almost staccato like speech patterns. Sometimes a sentence seemed like a non sequitur and I felt like I was missing parts of the story. But once I got into it I understood what it was trying to achieve.
We are reading about a toxic marriage from the point of view of Jane. Her husband John is an artist and she is a writer, her star far eclipses his and his jealousy and narcissism gradually begin poisoning the marriage and grinding Jane down. Once they have a child, never given a name, Jane is tied even tighter to the marriage, determined to see it through. Her anger and frustration is obvious as John becomes ever more distant. There are occasional glimpses of why they became a couple, the sexual attraction was strong and there was love between them. The eventual breakdown of the marriage comes as a shock and is written so realistically it is painful. One part of the writing I thought was absolute genius and totally relatable was her fear of eating anything she might choke on as there was no other adult to deliver the Heimlich manoeuvre.
Very cleverly written book, it was a difficult read because it was so raw but extremely relatable.

This book me caught me off guard with how raw the story comes across. Someone told Sarah Manguso “write what you know,” and she went for it. I read in an interview that this was a cathartic book for her to write at the end of her marriage, and that breaks my heart. This is a story that goes beyond plot. This book carries the weight of real trauma caused by egotistical men. It’s about the blurry lines that define our most personal relationships. It’s about the toxicity we endure in an attempt to tell ourselves that we’re the type of good girls who give everything. And then it’s about climbing out of the deep dark hole you have been isolated in. It’s brutal and beautiful and I already bought a physical copy to keep in my library forever. I highly recommend it to everyone!

Is it Halloween already? Because I just read my first horror story of 2024.

Jane and John fall in love and get married. And this is where it all goes to pot. Jane is a successful writer. She had a plan. But then she became a wife. She probably would have been fine if she was someone else's wife but she married John; an egotistical artist who can't seem to differentiate between wife and slave. If gaslighters got awards, he would win it. He made huge family decisions by himself without a thought of how they would impact Jane and while Jane raged on the inside, she reminded herself that she loved him and would continue to give the marriage 200% (that extra 100 was probably to compensate for John's 0% contribution).

I loved this book. I was completely engrossed in Jane's complex feelings for John as I was constantly hoping she would do something to knock him off all of the pegs he was on. I loved the rage, I loved the you-have-to-laugh-because-you-can't-cry undercurrent that ran throughout, and I also loved that the writer was writing what is unfortunately, a reality for many women. Because I don't think what happens inside a bad marriage is talked about enough. The short passages had a staccato like feel to them which was perfect for this type of tale as I could read, pause and absorb without losing too much momentum.

If you're not married and you read this book, don't let it put you off putting a ring on it! Not all marriages are this much of a train wreck. But if you are married and you recognise yourself or your partner in this book, please get help. This is not love.

Jane married, thinking she and her husband will be equals in love, life, creativity, and family, but after becoming a mither, figures out that's not the case as his ego, needs, and wants bury her.

Even Jane's initial descriptions of John make him sound pretentious and egotistical, and lay a clear diagram about who he already was, which was toxic, sexist, and narcissistic. But she was young and smitten, and this was written in past tense by an older and wiser Jane, so I facepalmed my way forwards.

But wow this lady was utterly clueless. The guy had big, flashing warning lights over his head right away. I found myself trying really hard to sympathise and mostly failing. She deluded herself from day one and then was shocked when her delusions fell apart.

I couldn't like her. I couldn't stand him. I really struggled to get through this book, I'm really sorry. I wanted to like it, I was hoping for something very different to what I got.

‘In the beginning I was only myself. Everything that happened to me, I thought, was mine alone.’
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I’m starting this post with the simple plea to please pre order this book… it truly blew me away. I adored the writing style, the story was beyond captivating and I just couldn’t put it down. So now you’ve pre ordered it… here’s what it’s about
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A searing novel about being a wife, a mother, and an artist, and how marriage makes liars out of us all.
When Jane, an aspiring writer, meets filmmaker John Bridges, they both want the same things: to be in love, to live a successful creative life, and to be happy. When they marry, Jane believes she has found everything she was looking for, including—a few years later—all the attendant joy and labor of motherhood. But it’s not long until Jane finds herself subsumed by John’s ambitions, whims, and ego; in short, she becomes a wife.
As Jane’s career flourishes, their marriage starts to falter. Throughout the upheavals of family life, Jane tries to hold it all together—that is, until John leaves her.
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I truly can say I don’t think I’ve read a novel like this, it felt so real, so honest, so jarring at times and just a constant pouring out of emotion and feeling onto the page. This is my first Sarah Manguso also, and YOU BET I’ll be exploring the backlist ASAP!
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Thank you SO much to Picador for sending me an early copy of this one, it’s not a book I’ll be forgetting any time soon!

A Punch..
Powerful insight into the disintegration of a relationship and what it ultimately means to become a wife. The lies and the betrayal, the madness and the despair of a toxic and abusive relationship are laid bare and exposed relayed in a clipped and snappy manner. A punch and a therapeutic one indeed.

Jane had ordered a la carte and gotten everything she’d wanted. She told John that he would have to work consistently and effortfully to sabotage what they had.

John did not want to be the unsuccessful partner of the successful person. He was just being honest. Was a seat at the table too much to ask? “We’re a team,” he said. Then he left without her.

They had been dating for two years, and she was about to turn thirty-five. She’d spent ten years repeatedly choosing the wrong people, leaving good ones because she believed she deserved only the ruined people. She had wanted that part of her life over already, and she was glad it finally was.

She was a real wife now, all she needed was for him to share in the housework, have one date a week with her, two weekly intimate sessions, and pay her back the seven grand he still owed her.

He slapped her face playfully, but it was too hard. It felt like a parlour game.

She was a liar… she just didn’t know it yet.

This book examines a marriage where even the word husband feels unsafe, and you feel uncomfortably complicit in the deepest parts of Jane’s pain where she’s trapped between neither wanting divorce, nor a disdainful partner blind to the consequences of his behaviour. This was an incredible read where the thin line between love and hate is irrevocably crossed. I could not look away, and yet I could neither bear witness at times to the brutality of this modern-day marriage story.

I would like to thank #NetGalley for sending me this arc in exchange for my honest review.

Liars by Sarah Manguso

The story of Jane and John, a 14-year relationship, one chlld and multiple moves across the US.

Brilliant! An amazing literary feat to fit 14 years into one novel and do it so successfully. I loved the way the story was told in short, sharp bursts. Loved and empathised with Jane's rage at the artist to house/everything manager journey. And really loved the last bit of the novel and Jane's 'realisation' (no spoilers!). Very VERY highly recommended.

Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher for an ARC of this book.

This book is not easy to read and can be uncomfortable at times, to say the least. However, it is essential reading. It delves into the life of a woman and her marriage, with an intensity that many may find unsettling.

This may sound terribly rude, but I think the book will benefit from a re-write. Love the style and approach, but ultimately bored by the rant. Don't get me wrong, I'm with the protagonist all the way through and through, but something about the carelessness of the flow and progression of the narrative just didn't sit right with me. The first half I thought was spectacular, but it spiralled into something less so after that. On one hand I get that that suits the context, plot structure and all, but on the other hand I just wished it was done differently. Still really want Manguso to write loads more though. I think I am somewhat partial to her non-fiction but I suppose this is an irrelevant and unhelpful input.

An absorbing and compelling story of a toxic marriage and ultimate demise. Even though it's fiction it felt like a brutally honest take on a real couple - one lying to the other, and one lying to themselves about their situation. Great writing, hooked all the way through.

Liars is an intense, thought provoking and claustrophobic read.

Manguso is a highly talented writer, covering a relationship from initial meeting, marriage and birth of a child to a bitter divorce. The resulting novel is compelling, nuanced and well paced.

I did however struggle to read it as I found it to be very intense and harrowing. Not necessarily a book I’d recommend to most people but one I’m glad I’ve read.

Thanks to NetGalley and Pan Macmillan for the ARC.

I struggled a little with this one. While the story was great, the characters were a problem gir me. I think I have read too many books with n awful man making a woman's life hell, but her also making g some infuriating decisions!

"Liars" by Sarah Manguso was a captivating and thought-provoking read. The book brilliantly delves into the complexities of motherhood and a woman's journey through a toxic marriage. The author skillfully peels back the layers of the relationship, offering a compelling and addictive portrayal of how a marriage can unravel. Seeing the nuanced deterioration of the relationship throughout the seasons made it an engrossing and relatable book for me. Is a difficult book to read but it was very well-developed and well written

Liars is simply the story of the disintegration of a marriage.

So this book drove me a little crazy. At first it was because of the obvious - the husband is a Grade A waste of space. He is a typical gaslighter and does everything he can to trivialise his wife's achievements.

However my desire to throw the book through the window morphed somewhere around the halfway mark. Yes, the husband continues to be useless but the wife is such a martyr. She constantly moans about how little her husband does or how badly he does it then lists all the things she does. Then she tells us how her marriage is worth saving even though her husband is more hindrance than help.

Of course we know this is not an unusual story. It happens all the time- husband belittles wife; wife belittles husband; staying together because of a child. However it drove me slightly deranged because the woman kept on doing the same things over and over.

I would have edited this book down to half it's size. The whole last quarter of the book is just the wife moaning about things the husband was doing in his new relationship or things he'd done in theirs.

Far too much navel gazing and introspection for me. However if you like that sort of indepth analysis of a doomed marriage then this is the book for you.

Thankyou to Netgalley and Pan Macmillan for the advance review copy.