After recievimg an arc of this book I went in completely blind. I really wasn't expecting the book to have the story line it did but I absolutely loved it.

On New Year's Eve, Max has a stumble and sustains a head injury. She wakes up in hospital alone and decides it is time to change. She meets Vincent on a dating app and immediately sparks fly. However as we progress through the book we find out more truths about Vincent, and maybe how he isn't as ok with Max being trans as he first let on. As life continues with it's ups and downs the truth continues to unravel to us, but will Vincent ever tell Max.

I thought this was a great book. It has some really meaningful topics but also showed the humour of life, even in the really tough times. I can't wait to read more from Dinan.

Rating: ⭐⭐⭐⭐¼ (4.25/5)
Having heard so much about Nicola Dinan, particularly her debut novel Bellies, I was thrilled to be approved for an advance copy of Disappoint Me.

Told through multiple POVs and timelines, the novel primarily follows Max and Vincent. Max, a thirty-year-old published poet and highly paid legal counsel for a tech company finds herself reevaluating her life after a dramatic fall at a New Year’s Eve party, which lands her in the hospital. She decides to attempt a more conventional path in a bid for change.

Meanwhile, Vincent, a corporate lawyer with a passion for baking, struggles with the expectations of his traditional friend group and his Chinese parents, neither of whom envisioned him dating a trans woman.
From the very first page, this novel captivated me. While both Max and Vincent are deeply flawed, their imperfections make them all the more compelling, keeping me hooked as I uncovered the secrets of Vincent’s past and Max’s response to a revelation from a decade earlier.

This thought-provoking and emotionally charged novel explores identity, love, and societal expectations. Dinan’s writing is powerful, evoking a range of emotions—from anger to heartbreak—making it impossible to put the book down. I deeply admire the author’s ability to craft such an intricate and resonant story, and I was left wanting more.

Thank you to NetGalley and Random House UK, Transworld Publishers | Doubleday for providing me with an e-ARC of Disappoint Me in exchange for my honest review.

Dinan’s writing absolutely shines. I raced through this! I really loved the dual perspective through different time periods and loved the little sprinkling of poetry.

‘You can fall in love with an outline, you can even make a home with one, but there will come a time when you can’t deny the bones their flesh.’

Somehow, Dinan’s sophomore novel is even more brilliant than her first. Disappoint Me explores transgender identity, race, bourgeois domesticity, and relationships in a way that is quietly hopeful and beautifully expressed.

Both central characters have distinctive voices and multitudes, coming alive from the page and standing behind us in the queue at the supermarket, or sitting across from us on the train. Dinan probes our morality and explores the human condition in a way that inspires self-reflection from the reader, no matter their identity.

My experience reading Disappoint Me has secured Nicola Dinan as one of my favourite authors. I’m already highly anticipating whatever’s coming next.

Bellies was an amazing and moving debut novel, so I felt exceptionally lucky to be able to be able to read Disappoint Me.

Whilst I didn't always click with Max (I found her judgemental and condescending),I enjoyed her story and watching her navigate her 30s, her career, and her friend whilst developing her relationship with Vincent. Vincent's story did captivate me more, as it told slowly in snippets always leaving you needing to know more.

I highly recommend you check this book out. Dinan writes such engaging novels that you can lose yourself in and pull on the heart strings.

Nicola Dinan is a genius at writing compelling and real characters. This book may have just suffered from having too many of them.

I enjoyed Max and Vincent’s storyline, the dual timelines, the way they navigated their relationships, and the unfortunate parallels between the timelines. However, there were so many characters and so many small plot lines that made it hard to follow. For the first half of the book I had no idea where it was going, though it became a lot more clear in the second half.

Dinan is a great writer and after Bellies, I will continue to read anything she releases. This one unfortunately just ended up falling a bit flat.

Re-posting as I received multiple copies of this ARC.

Having enjoyed Nicola Dinan's debut Bellies last year I was really looking forward to this book. Disappoint Me is a character driven novel that follows Max and Vincent as they navigate a new relationship together. This book is beautifully written and I was completely immersed in the characters voices. The book covers many topics mainly surrounding identity and relationships which I felt were told in a sensitive and thought provoking way. Whilst tackling serious subject it is also told with a humorous tone that kept the book entertaining at the same time as keeping it realistic and thought provoking. Overall really enjoyed this book and would recommend!

Nicola Dinan you will always be famous! I adored her debut, Bellies, last year, and Disappoint Me did quite the opposite (bad-dum, tsh!).

Max is thirty, a published poet and grossly overpaid legal counsel for a tech company where she pretends to be their AI. Max is mixed-race and a trans woman, like Ming in Bellies and like Dinan herself. Max is prickly, sensitive and thinks deeply about her place in the world and people's reactions to her, which make for eye-opening and compelling reading.

Max's identity struggles aren't the crux of this novel, though. When she falls down the stairs at a New Year's Eve party - stone cold sober, I might add - and decides that her life needs to change. But how to change - things are pretty good for Max, in many ways. She decides to give the normie lifestyle a go, and shacks up with lawyer, baker, and charmer Vincent Chan. He falls madly in love with her, so it's worth navigating this heteronormative world for that... right?

Told from the alternating perspectives of Vincent and Max, he in the past and she in the present, Dinan weaves together a rich and compelling story about how hard it can be to outrun the past. Comforting is maybe an odd word to use, but I love books about people in their thirties that aren't straightforward wife-and-mother narratives, and Disappoint Me really delivered on this front. Max is so easy to root for; she's still figuring stuff out, without falling into the annoying "i'm just a girl!" trope that irks me so often in coming-of-age novels. The novel takes a big swing about two-thirds of the way in, leaving Max's life turned upside-down: again. But this was navigated superbly by Dinan, even if it felt a little out of left field.

In the present timeline, narrated by Max, Vincent is charming and sweet, a picture of new man sensitivity. which makes his dark past all the more brutal when it does become clear to the reader. Dinan writes with huge compassion for her characters, even when they go wrong, and she also incoporates much-needed nuance into her stories about trans lives. I loved the depiction of that turning-30 panic through the lens of being trans and found it fascinating. Dinan also writes with incredible empathy for her characters, which is something I wish I saw more in the real world.


Lots to explore in this one, from having a baby to forgiving the unforgiveable; to family secrets and heteronormativity. One I can see myself unpacking for a long time after reading. One for the girls who remain a little messy long after the party is over, and another banger from Nicola Dinan.

Wow!

Honestly Nicola Dinan might be THE new author of observational litfic and is fast becoming one of my fave new authors on the scene.

Brutally sharp and honest, Dinan shows the turbulent inner emotions of forgiveness, love, and self acceptance in a relatively short piece of work.

However, I didn’t feel as connected to this as I did when I read Bellies.

I found it hard to understand Max and why she was so mean and narcissistic at times. Her hatred and, let’s be honest, chip on her shoulder didn’t seem as important as it was made out. Because we also had big time jumps in her and Vincent’s relationship I thought we skipped over a lot of character study and relationship development. I felt as a reader I missed out on key moments with them together so I ultimately wasn’t as invested in their story as I was with Vincent’s in Thailand.

Vincent’s journey, and path to forgiveness, was what had me hooked throughout.

Disappoint Me defies definition. It's a story about identity and love and friendship. It's a story about shame, regret and forgiveness.

Max takes a fall in a club and waking up in hospital she starts to question where she wants her life to go. She gets no sense of fulfilment from her job and as she sees her friends begin to marry and settle down she wonders if she too wants that life.

When she meets Vincent, she feels safe and cared for. But being a trans woman always makes her feel other, and she searches for signs that Vincent will ultimately disappoint her.

The dual timeline takes us back to 2012 when Vincent travelled to Thailand and met Alex. A woman he was attracted to and liked a lot. But when it's revealed Alex is a trans woman, he questions his feelings and cares too much about what other people will think.

As secrets all too often leave a shadow, so too does Vincent's. When Max finds out about his past it makes her question everything. Can people change? Can she forgive? As she battles her own health issues she takes time away from the relationship to consider what she wants.

With so much fear and ignorance in the world, Disappoint Me feels like an important story. We all feel confusion and shame at times. We all question where we fit in, but for some, the layers of complexity make it hard to just be. To ever feel enough, to feel accepted just as we are. Human emotions are universal and what the world needs is a lot more education and compassion. Stories like these are a counterweight to the ignorant and cruel who see anyone different as less than. It shouldn't matter who we love or how we identify. And yet, now more than ever, it seems to. When we know better, we need to do better.

Nuance is missing from conversations around gender, and this book brings that crucial nuance. I hope with fantastic writing like this, we can challenge rhetoric that wants to separate and isolate us from one another.

Love Nicola Dinan’s writing and adored Bellies, so I had high hopes for Disappoint Me that weren’t all met. Dinan is wonderful at writing nuanced characters with thoughts and behaviours and choices feel grounded in their realities (for better or for worse), and for the most part I loved Max. Even when I didn’t, I still felt strongly for her, which is great character work on Dinan’s part. Sadly didn’t feel as connected to Vincent despite the empathy and care with which he was written. Not to compare too much with Bellies, but there was a clear distinction between Ming and Tom’s voices that just isn’t as apparent with Max and Vincent, which made the latter’s POV fall somewhat flat for me.

There’s lots to explore here; the low grade panic that sets in when you hit 30 and suddenly everyone around you is married or starting to settle into domesticity, questions of identity and how to perform it accordingly, being granted access to traditional spheres of heteronormativity and whether being granted that access is something to strive for at all. Some of the conversations around these themes are pretty on the nose and repetitive at times, but mostly well written.

At its core, this is a book about forgiveness and what it means to give it, both to yourself and to others. Max tries her best to do both throughout the narrative, but I particularly loved reading her ruminations on forgiving the people in her life. Still thinking about the conversation between Max and her father, and will probably keep thinking about it for a while.

Thank you to the publisher and NetGalley for the digital ARC in exchange for an honest review!

I wanted to love this one so much but it just fell slightly flat for me. That said, Nicola Dinan has woven some incredible complex characters and I appreciated how much nuance she brought to each.

My first Nicola Dinan book, and it didn’t disappoint me! Droll and devastating, we explore the undulating relationship of Max and Vincent, two people who find each other in the melee of millennial angst. 30-something published poet, and legal counsel bot Max, meets corporate-by-day-hobby-baker-by-night Vincent via an online dating app, after Max realises she needs to make changes in her life. Together they tentatively embark on a relationship but Vincent has a trad friendship group, and a complicated family situation, where dating a trans woman challenges his traditional Chinese family values.

In the end “people are what they are, and sometimes they’re just an ongoing series of small disappointments” but when something resurfaces from Vincent’s past during a devastating time in Max’s life, can this disappointment be considered small? Dinan asks how we reconcile mistakes from our past, and do these mistakes diminish our worth in the present?

This is a character-driven story of modern relationships, identity, and ultimately forgiveness. Told from the dual POVs of Max and Vincent, with a shifting timeline from the present day and Thailand 2012. Nicola Dinan writes with authority and authenticity, with prose that has its own agency. This book is a dream for annotating, and this fangirl is in urgent need of an emotional tourniquet.

Thank you to NetGalley and the publishers for sending me an advance copy in exchange for my honest review. Honestly this is brilliant - 5 stars!

This was INCREDIBLE! It's only January, but I'm predicting this is going to be one of my favourite books of the year

Disappoint Me is a beautifully nuanced tale about identity and relationships. The book centres around Max - a poet and lawyer who is trying to navigate this dual identity of being a writer while also impersonating an AI in her work as a lawyer, as well as being a trans woman in today's world and relationship scene - and Vincent, a corporate lawyer and Max's boyfriend. The book is told in a dual timeline and pov, with Max's pov in the present and Vincent's about ten years prior, during his gap year in Thailand.

I loved this book! Nicola Dinan writes with such depth, and this story offers an incredibly nuanced view of humans as flawed but real individuals. It explores our limits as to what we can forgive and how much/if we can change.

Thank you so much to Doubleday UK for the proof and also to NetGalley for the e-ARC!

Thank you Random House UK, Transworld Publishers + Doubleday for the NetGalley ARC of Disappoint Me. I enjoyed the story and the split timelines, and I preferred this to Bellies.

I can’t begin this review without saying how absolutely excited I was to read Nicola Dinan’s second book after absolutely loving her debut Bellies. Of course I was curious if it will live up to the expectations and if maybe I have changed as a reader, maybe there was some special magic in the debut novel. Well, there was absolutely no reason to worry, Disappoint Me is incredible and has everything I loved about Bellies and more. Dinan’s writing is captivating in a very special way in which it feels very modern, the voices are very authentic, characters just jump out of the pages but it’s also beautiful and poignant where it counts. Particularly dialogues feel very natural, exactly how people talk and interact with all the nuances of real people speaking. What I found to be a really nice surprise was how much humour there is in Disappoint Me. It is so snappy, observant and spot on, both in dialogue and character’s internal monologue. All of that despite the subject matter getting quite difficult half way through but being handled so gracefully. There are many references to other books, some of them cracking me up like some people’s sudden “wokeness” after reading Detransition, Baby. I love it when books are aware of culture and references like that. There is so much more to praise about Nikola Dinan’s novels and I have a feeling her work will go down in history of literature as some of the best portrayals of trans lives around 2020s.

Thank you to Random House UK and NetGalley for the eARC!

In February 2024, a bookstagram friend recommended Bellies to me. I ended up absolutely devouring it in one evening. Later in the year, I passed on the Bellies love to another friend and joined her for a re-read. Bellies quickly became one of my all-time favourite books. Flash forward to the end of summer 2024: I’m now long-distance besties with the aforementioned bookstagram friend, and Disappoint Me appears on NetGalley. I pressed that request button possibly faster than I ever have, and, excitingly, my friend managed to get her hands on a copy too. Flash forward again to December 2024, a month before the release date, and I’m being read to from Disappoint Me by the same bookstagram friend, except now she’s my girlfriend, and we’re reading together in the same place. All that to say, I had high expectations for this book, and it saddens me so much to say that I felt incredibly let down…

Disappoint Me follows a trans woman, Max, and her cis boyfriend, Vincent, as their relationship develops and they confront their respective pasts and futures. As readers, we follow both Max and Vincent’s perspectives, alternating between 2023 London and 2012 Thailand.

As we saw when reading Bellies, Nicola is astoundingly skilled at writing real, messy, and relatable characters that you truly can’t help but become invested in and fall a little in love with. The characters in Bellies hold such an incredibly special place in my heart, but sadly, I can’t say the same for all the characters in this book. I greatly appreciated the found-family aspects and the overarching characterisation, but my goodness, we spent far too much time and energy inside Vincent’s cis male brain. Much of the time spent with Vincent was incredibly uncomfortable (not in a good way) and often rife with transphobia. This was not only hard to read but also detracted from the focus on Max. I would have loved to have heard more from Max (and Alex, who is introduced later). I almost DNF’d this book purely because of how much I couldn’t stand Vincent’s perspective.

The inclusion of certain transphobic comments (usually within Vincent’s perspective) often felt misplaced and did little to support the overall story arc, not to mention how triggering they may be for some readers. I found myself craving the balance and nuance we saw in Bellies. I also need to mention that I was incredibly disappointed by the Harry Potter reference made in passing in an entirely uncritical way.

I want to end by acknowledging that I still love Nicola Dinan’s writing style and her ability to so seamlessly turn incredibly real and powerful experiences into fictional accounts so vivid that you forget you’re reading fiction. I will definitely continue to read everything Nicola writes and although Disappoint Me wasn't for me, I will forever hold Bellies close.

I’ll conclude by saying that if you loved Bellies and have been excited to read more from Nicola Dinan, then by all means, go for it! Many other reviewers seem to love it. Just be sure to keep the transphobia content warning in mind.

Thanks to NetGalley and Doubleday for the e-ARC. All opinions are my own.

TWs/CWs:
Uncritical Harry Potter reference made in passing in the e-arc.
Graphic: Hate crime, Transphobia, Violence, and Outing
Moderate: Physical abuse, Toxic relationship, Medical content, Medical trauma, and Toxic friendship
Minor: Deadnaming and Gaslighting

This is a modern romance with a main character that happens to be trans. And it’s bloomin lovely! Max is our main character and she is warm and bright and funny and the perfect friend. All of the characters are so well written and made me feel really emotionally invested in their stories. Whether you want a trans romance or simply a romance involving two human beings, this is a great choice.

I did really enjoy Bellies by Nicola Dinan but this follow-up book is just as incredible, if not more so! I liked how the characters were in their early 30s and contemplating what comes next with relationships, health and the future whilst trying to reconcile with their past.
Thank you to the publisher and NetGalley for the chance to read this ARC.

I really loved this author's debut, Bellies, when I read it a couple years ago so I was very excited to get my hands on this, her follow up book. And I am happy to say that I loved it just as much!
Max is a 30 year old published poet. But her life isn't really going anywhere much. A fall down some stairs at a New Year's Eve party has her reflecting on her life in order that she can possibly follow it up with some serious hard choices.
And then she meets Vincent, a corporate lawyer and part time baker. But he has his own baggage, as well as people close to him who might possibly not really understand his dating a trans woman.
So... as we follow Max and Vincent and their relationship in the present, we also go back in time and follow Vincent as he travels during his gap year.
I'm not going to say anything else about the story as I want you to discover everything at the right time and that means, as the author intended. Suffice to say, as with Bellies, it had me in all the feels. I laughed with them, I cried with them, I cringed at them, and I also did a fair bit of shouting at them. Not that it did me (or them) any good!
As with Bellies, it is rather characters driven and, as such, needs to have characters that are strong enough to carry the story. Again, as with Bellies, it most definitely has. Every one, no matter how big or small a part to play, is carefully crafted and perfectly formed to do the job tasked of them. I was well easily able to find a way to connect to each and every one which is especially important as we really all do come from different worlds, and have very little in common.
You might also think that with the main story being around a trans woman and her man, it would be a bit of a repeat of Bellies, well, although it tackles similar issues it's really not. But you don't need me to convince you. If you loved Bellies, you will probably love this. And if you haven't already read Bellies, where have you been?
My thanks go to the Publisher and Netgalley for the chance to read this book.