I received a copy of this book through NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.

This book was around 3.5 stars for me.

Gottesman shares an interesting approach and tips on dating to find your soul mate. She defines what a soul mate is and identifies the three keys to being ready and finding your soul mate. There is helpful advice and Gottesman very eloquently captures how to think about dating differently to work toward a serious commitment and what that may look like.

That being said this book focuses on binary, cisgender, heterosexual, monogamous relationships which leaves out a lot of people. Some of Gottesmans' advice also feels very specific. For example she emphasizes over and over the importance of not texting and having phone calls before you meet with a text a day at most. I imagine that may work if you're going through a matchmaking service and have an idea that the person you're meeting could be a match for you. I personally find texting a perfectly acceptable, and sometimes preferable way to communicate and would find it very strange if someone would only speak to me on the phone and would probably interpret not texting about as being uninterested. Gottesman also recommends meeting in public, but doesn't go into other details about how dangerous dating can often be for single people which surprised me, but the general tone of this book is very positive.

I imagine some of my rankles are both regional and generational. This book has advice that offers an interesting perspective on dating and finding the person who is right for you.

There is no magic bullet. This book is realistic. It's not one of those books that starts with promising the world and barely delivers a rock. It has good recommendations. There are some religious opinions which I didn't care for, but they're not preachy or over-bearing, so it's easy to overlook and get past them.