Backbone

What does it mean to be a deeply happy powerful man? Few men today even ask themselves that question.  Because they don't want to ask that question, they wind up settling for just being “a guy” - the half-baked, two-dimensional version of a man. It's easy to be a guy. All you have to do is be male and reach adulthood. There's no initiation, there's no training required. You're just a guy - and not much is expected of you. Stay out of trouble. Don't be a dick. Pay your bills.
If you want to graduate out of guydom and enter a powerful and happy manhood, it takes some work. To be a fully-alive, free-thinking, powerful, man-of-vision, it takes honing, training, reflection, personal development, and a good dose of brutal honesty. That's what we're going to do with you as you go through this book. There's a deeply happy and powerful man, and a mediocre two-dimensional guy in each of us. We have to decide which one we want to invest in.

In this book we're going to look at what it means for you to have “backbone”. When I say backbone, I'm speaking of a man's conscious masculine core strength. It's about knowing yourself deeply, about honing yourself, enhancing your core strengths and reducing your core weaknesses. It's about knowing where you want to go in your life and knowing how to be the man you need to be to get there. Every one of us has a backbone. It's not a matter of “growing one” - it's about  “finding yours”. It's about deeply examining our self, investing in our core selves, and choosing the kind of men we want to be. This book is a guide to help you learn to be a deeply happy, truly powerful, purpose-driven, passionate man.

When a man has backbone he knows what he stands for and what he won't stand for. A man with backbone lives from a place of bigness instead of pettiness and smallness. A man with backbone has learned to master his masculine energies and take charge of his life. He knows who he is, and he knows what he's here for, and spends his time on his mission in life. A man with backbone is fearless, robust, loving, wise, steady, fun-loving, and ready to protect and serve the world in which he lives. A man with backbone fully enjoys all that life has to offer, while taking care of his world in a most excellent way. Not because someone else gave him a high standard, or because he's in competition to be a winner, but because he is operating from a place where he knows what is true for him and he is living that truth.