Claire Meadows, married for 30 years, now at the age of 92 looks back on her life after her husband died. It would appear that during her marriage there was little love between her loyal but equally boring husband. As soon as he dies she decides party.... chasing an active and fulfilling sex life. She is now free to discover herself and prove that older women can enjoy life and be in control of their body at any age. An average book with a interesting theme.

Waiting for a Party is in the first person narrative, a 90-something year old Claire, reflecting on her life and relationships.
I thought this was well written, with some great insights and engaging situations. The self-reflection at times lacked narrative pace (for me) so I didn't pick the book up as often as I might have done. The power of the self-reflection of course is interesting, and how we end up where we are and how we are, due to everything that happens along the way. Much of the book surrounds Claire's new lease of sexual activity having been in a rather dead-marriage.

Waiting For A Party by Vesna Main

👵🏻 Refreshingly unique
👵🏻 Sexual liberation at 60+
👵🏻 Friendship

Claire is 92. She’s waiting to be collected to go to a party. She’s thinking back to the most formative years of her life. This is not a coming of age novel. Claire’s voyage of self discovery takes a steep curve at 62, after the death of her husband.

I was drawn to the premise of a woman in her later life finding sexual liberation after a particularly vanilla marriage. I got that (in spades) but this novel offers so much more.

Main’s character writing is outstanding. These are well developed, complex and ultimately loveable characters who form beautiful, sometimes unconventional, relationships. This book is just as much about Claire’s relationship with her best friend or her interaction with the act of remembering as her (explicit) sexual exploits.

I read this compulsively and have thought about it often since. I think Claire is a new favourite character and I am grateful to Main for writing from such a refreshing perspective. I would LOVE to see this on the Women’s Prize Longlist.

I started this book twice, but found it really difficult to get into; the long sentences and paragraph at the beginning didn't give me anything interesting that I thought I would like to know more about. I did persevere but, unusually for me, eventually gave up as I found the writer's style too ponderous to engage with.
Thank you to netgalley and Salt publishing for an advance copy of this book.

This is my first reading of Vesna Main and I found it surprisingly moving and thought provoking. I really enjoyed Vesna's writing and will look out for more novels by her. Highly recommend.

Written from the perspective an old woman reminiscing about her life, especially from 60 years onwards this is a very interesting read. So many true observations about the assumptions that are made about older women read true. Some of the more sexual passages seemed unnecessary but maybe that’s just me.
Good recognition that older women have lives and fantasies too.

This is an unusual and original book. Claire is 92, and reminisces about her life, and her friends, many of whom have died. She is waiting to go to Martin's 102nd birthday party. He has been her friend and neighbour since the start of her marriage to Bill, his friend.
Claire and Bill were married for 30 years, but he was much older, and controlling, and kept many secrets from her. Claire says she loved Bill, but it feels like there is a lot of resentment there.
After Bill died, Claire, at 62, started meeting new men, and we hear about how she embraces her independence, her new sexual freedom, and the wonderful lovers in her life. It is refreshing to read about sex between older people who no longer have beautiful bodies, and the sex scenes are very well written.
I really enjoyed this book. Recommended

In Waiting for a Party, we meet Claire, a 92-year-old woman who finds herself reflecting on her life one Sunday morning as she anticipates her friend Martin's upcoming 102nd birthday party at his retirement home. As she reminisces, she grapples with the weight of her past—her unfulfilled dream of becoming a concert pianist, her lost opportunity for motherhood, and the friends and lovers who have largely departed from her life. The shadow of her husband’s death looms large as she confronts the role she played in it: was it an accident, a suicide, or something she inadvertently facilitated? The conflicting emotions she experiences—fear, relief, guilt—add layers of complexity to her memories.

After becoming a widow, Claire embarks on a journey of self-discovery, exploring her sexuality in a way she never could during her marriage at twenty-two. While most of her fleeting encounters leave her feeling unsatisfied, a chance meeting at a concert with a man of intriguing appearance ignites a memory that continues to excite her long after his passing.

Claire reflects on her marriage to a man over twenty years her senior, a relationship that shaped her into someone who believed she was lost, allowing him to make all the decisions for thirty years. Despite asserting that she was happy in her marriage, she frequently questions the validity of her memories, recognizing the difficulties in distinguishing between what truly happened and what she imagines. Yet, her desire for love and intimacy remains vibrant, highlighting the universal longing for connection that persists even in old age.

The narrative takes a poignant turn when Claire’s adopted son Zach and his partner Gabriel arrive earlier than expected, only to learn that Martin has passed away that morning. Despite their grief, the trio decides to embark on a journey to the Uffizi in Florence, transforming their mourning into a quest for self-discovery and fulfilment.

Waiting for a Party is a moving and thought-provoking exploration of a woman's multifaceted life and her roles throughout it. It delves into themes of self-identity, desire, and the complex nature of memory, capturing the essence of what it means to be many things to many people yet rarely to oneself. This raw and at times graphic reflection on life invites readers to contemplate their journeys, making it a compelling and enriching read.

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Goodness, Vesna Main sure can write. This is first piece of Literature (and that should certainly be with a capital L as it deserves to be classed as such) by Main that I have read, and as I was half way through I was already looking at her back catalogue for my next read. To say I was utterly absorbed is an understatement, her writing is just so beautiful and I felt connected to her characters as if I knew them personally.
This is a book narrated by Claire Meadows, whom we meet at 92 years young, preparing to go to a birthday party of a friend, Martin, aged 102. The book then meanders back and forth, reminiscing through Claire’s life and most intimate experiences. Through this form, we experience Claire’s marriage, friendships, relationships both conventional and unconventional, her loves, her sexual fantasies and sexual experiences (including her first sexual awakening at 62!). The writing is tender, frank, surprising, sensual, sometimes graphic, but always beautiful. It is a book that I know I will re read.
Thank you so much to NetGalley for an ARC - I feel honoured to have read this prior to publication.

On the lowest survey estimates, women think about sex ten times a day (about half as much as men) and Claire Meadows, who tells this story, seems to score above the average – although she is 92 years old!

The book is essentially a monologue about her life, while she waits to go to a party being held for her friend who is 102! The main event in the story, or perhaps the trigger for the rest of it, is her first real climax ten years after the death of her husband and the sexual experimentation which followed on from that. She has a flirty friend called Patricia who encourages her!

However, this is book about more than sex. It has a lot to say about how women’s lives at all levels are often managed by men, their past histories and social expectations. It’s clever because it isn’t an angry book about these things: they are just how it was.

It’s also entertaining in its descriptions of how things have evolved, often by chance, into a satisfactory life at 92. Claire has a family of a sort and good friends and, in that sense, it’s a celebration of life – even at that great age.

And, if you think that life ends at sixty, or even seventy, this story may make you think again!

A somewhat different style of book. The writing was excellent and the character well defined. I was a little disappointed by the half way mark as it seemed a little repetitive. Thanks to Net Galley for an ARC

An exceptional book, written in the voice of a 92 year old woman. Claire is waiting to be taken to the birthday party of a 102 year old friend. As she waits, her mind wanders to her marriage and subsequent romances after her husband Bill died.
Claire has a contemporary voice and the book doesn't come across as nostalgic ramblings. Instead, there are astute observations and learnings about relationships for us, the reader.
Claire married Bill, 20 years her senior, as a young woman, and their roles were very traditional. He constantly referred to her as "my dear, little Claire" and it's clear that as she reflects on the relationship, and what her friend Michael has since said, he didn't see her as an intellectual equal. She can't bring herself to criticise Bill so says that she says that he gave her the stability she needed, as an orphan. She doesn't talk much about being childless and how Bill had had a vasectomy after his child with his first wife died. Instead, she has "adopted" an adult man as her son, after they had an ill-fated fling.
Claire dives into relationships and one night stands after she is widowed, and is wistful that she won;t ever experience physical love or romance now she is in her 90s. "She has realised that regardless of age, everyone needs love, or, at least, everyone dreams of being loved. But when she considers that, the word yuck comes to mind and she admits to herself she would be ashamed to say the sentence about the need for love in front of anyone else for fear of sounding as a heroine from a pulp fiction novel. "
I loved the book and Main's writing. Thank you for bringing us a voice so clear and loud to our attention from an extraordinary generation.

Sadly not a book for me, her reflections on the death of her husband and sexual relationship with a much younger man.

The blurb got me with this one but I didn't know what to expect. This book is a moving, thought-provoking, raw and (at times) graphic reflection on life as a whole. Showcasing the many facets of a woman's life and her many roles, it explores how she is many things to many people but rarely all for herself. This isn't my kind of book, really, and I had to take my time with it, but it was beautifully written and will stay with me for a long time. I'm left remembering a dear friend who was already an elderly widow when we met - she was a complete and whole person as I knew her, and yet had lived many lives before I'd taken breath. The main characters in her story were memories before I had heard of them.

Just a really good book.

This is my first experience of Vesna Main's work, I am eager to explore previous publications now. As the title suggests, as 92-year old Claire, waits for her lift to the party of a friend, her mind reflects and mulls over events of the past. The meandering journey this takes feels realistic, often she returns to the same scene a couple of times adding more / different details each time. The characters around her are brought to life and she replays events that touched them all. Absorbing, heartfelt and utterly wonderful.

**Book Review: _Waiting for a Party_ by Vesna Main**

_Vesna Main's_ _Waiting for a Party_ is a thought-provoking exploration of identity, displacement, and the longing for connection. Through sharp prose and a keen eye for detail, Main delves into the intricacies of cultural and personal narratives, capturing the complex emotions of those who find themselves on the periphery of society.

The novel’s strength lies in its vivid character portrayals and its ability to bring to life the often-unspoken realities of belonging and isolation. Main weaves a tapestry of poignant moments, showing how the wait for acceptance and understanding can be both universal and deeply personal. _Waiting for a Party_ is an evocative read that resonates long after the final page.

A very interesting novel which is basically the meandering thoughts and reflections of an older woman as she waits to get ready for a party. Claire reflects on her marriage to her late husband Bill, her friendship with Patricia, who has also now died, and the various sexual encounters she has had with other men over the course of her life.

It's fascinating as we feel we are being let into someone's most innermost and private thoughts. Claire is now 92 and she wonders a few times whether anyone would still find her sexually attractive. Despite all the assumptions and prejudices about age, she still longs for sexual love, which comes across somehow as quite sweet.

It becomes clear over the course of the book that her marriage to Bill wasn't great, and that she's still working on processing that fact. Bill got together with her following a tragedy with his previous wife, and it seems he saw her as someone to look after rather than love as an equal. Their sex life wasn't great - Claire doesn't recall having an orgasm with him, although also thinks maybe that isn't quite fair. But as he was older, she didn't feel confident enough (or have the knowledge) to express what she really wanted sexually.

The descriptions of her sexual relationships with men, and the jealousies this provoked in some of her friends, are very readable. It's also a poignant tale of the loneliness that can grow as people age, and so many of the people who were in their lives have died. Claire thinks several times that she really misses Patricia, who was obviously a big influence and support for her.

We are left wondering about Bill, and whether Claire actually got some level of 'revenge' on him or not. It seems that as he grew ill he became more cantankerous, insulting Claire and putting her down.

There will be bits of Claire's experiences that will resonate with everyone, and it's interesting to read about her trying to process and comprehend her life, and decide how to interpret it. This is quite a poignant but hopeful book, and it was great to have an older person as the sole focus of an entire novel. I read it in just a couple of days, and would definitely recommend it.

This book!! Unexpected but very good and well written. I love stories like this, we need more! We should all live our life no matter the age we are. Sometimes we need a wild ride to help keep us alive. This book does just that. I won’t give away any spoilers but this took an unexpected turn and I was living for it! Thank you for sharing this with the world!

Waiting for a Party sees ninety-two-year-old Claire reflecting on her life as she waits to be taken to her dear friend’s 102nd birthday party. Martin was originally her husband’s friend. She married Bill when she was just twenty and he was in his forties, coming to the rescue of ‘my dear, little Claire’ when she fainted, a story he loves to tell at dinner parties. When he died in circumstances about which Claire seems a little confused, it took ten years for her to finally come into herself to the relief of her dearest friend, Patricia, now long gone. She knew she could look after herself despite Bill’s taking care of things for so long but had not expected the sexual awakening she enjoyed at sixty-two. As she looks back at her long life, Claire recalls its rich and varied path and the friendships that have meant so much to her.
Vesna Main’s novella takes the form of a long stream-of-consciousness interior monologue which explores many themes: love, marriage, friendship, sexuality, loss and ageing, and, of course, memory. Despite the care Claire has taken of herself, she knows she will never have the joy of being desired again, remembering the lovers she took after Bill’s death, not least, Hal, the love of her life. Her memory is clear although sometimes she confuses things that happened long ago – perhaps she should have rung 999 when she heard Bill cry out rather than talking to Patricia – making her a pleasingly unreliable narrator. Bill slowly emerges as a monstrously selfish, coercive character, despite Claire’s many reassurances to herself that they were happy. An enjoyable, skilfully crafted piece of fiction from Main which has made me want to explore more of her work.

"Waiting for a Party" by Vesna Main is an extraordinary novel that intricately explores the nuances of human relationships and the search for meaning. Main's narrative is both profound and accessible, capturing the essence of her characters with remarkable depth and empathy. The story centers around a group of individuals navigating their personal struggles and connections, each character vividly brought to life through Main's skillful prose.

Main’s writing shines with its eloquent descriptions and keen psychological insights, making the reader feel intimately connected to the characters’ journeys. The novel’s structure and pacing are expertly crafted, drawing readers into a compelling exploration of identity, belonging, and the complexities of social dynamics.

"Waiting for a Party" stands out for its emotional resonance and intellectual engagement, offering a rich and rewarding reading experience. Vesna Main has crafted a novel that is both thought-provoking and deeply moving, making it a must-read for fans of contemporary literary fiction. This book is a testament to Main’s talent as a storyteller, leaving a lasting impression with its eloquence and humanity.