Don't Get Married Until You Are Single

I was drawn to be this book because of two things: the title and the fact that the title part reflection of my status.
The author's writing is timely and full of insights into being single, dating and getting married. He shares his ow n life experiences and those of the people he has interacted with over the years on what it means to give your best version to another in any commitment.
This book is written in what feels like a narrator's voice and I had to highlight chapters and make notes as I read through it on my eReader. I'd recommend reading it in print version so you can always make notes or highlight key areas that inspire, thus making it easier for you to progress in keeping track of areas of improvement.
I received an advanced digital copy of the book in exchange for an honest review and I am glad that the publisher and NetGalley granted my wish because now I can approach my weaknesses with such clarity. This book would make an awesome gift to friends who are single and gosh, how about in Kenya and some parts of Africa where people look at you and ask "when are you getting married?" as though you came with an expiry date!

I suppose the single gal that I am was drawn to this NetGalley title. Perhaps many people will find that Sam Opeche is just using common sense, but don't we all need to hear that every once and awhile? Sam and his wife Elizabeth hold marriage workshops and he is using this book as a vehicle to set the record straight to those singles who desire to be married. In seven chapters, he discusses everything from the perception of society on the single person, to the way a growth mindset(particularly how one feels toward themselves)and there is even a chapter on surveys for you and your partner.

I suppose each singleton reader might react to the book based on their own experience. Ever since Sex and the City women of my generation have been reminded to "put ourselves out there" and remember that there might be a chance that "he's just not into you." When the book talked about the perception of society towards a single person, I can honestly say that "yes" sometimes it has occurred that a few misconceptions about why I am single have come up. Personally, the worst one is because I am a reader that I must be so wrapped up in "romance novels ." WTH??? These folks are obviously not on my Goodreads list! Haha!

Sam Opeche also talks about self love which had me imagining him fist pumping Oprah who often discussed that on her show the importance of "loving yourself first ." Also, marriage is definitely not a cure for loneliness as there are plenty of lonely married people. As well,a gentle reminder that a lot of people that Sam and his wife have met are more focused on "the wedding" rather than "the marriage"

I think this book paired with "Modern Romance" would be nice book club material. Nothing earth shattering, but maybe a little dose of understanding for the single life and dating today.

it's really good! I'm halfway throw and I'm really enjoying it and already recommended it to two people
I saw a review of it on Goodreads that got me intrigued and i'm really glad I downloaded it

Thank you Netgalley and Troubador Publishing Limited for the advanced copy of this book in exchange for my honest review. This book is not just for Single people, but Married as well. I had reservations going into this book because I am married and I thought it would hold a lot of advise for Single people or people who are in the beginning stages of dating. Turns out this book is for everyone. I would take the advise from this book with a grain of salt because the some of the facts listed are not well researched and some of the 'facts' are not so much as facts, but stereotypes. Seeing into the authors dating and married life leaves you with some insights into your own life. One of the things that he shares that I love is 'You don't have to be married to be happy'. Society puts so much pressure on people to be married and start a family all by a certain age and if you don't, you will not have a happy and fulfilling life. What I took away is that you need to love yourself first and then you can truly love others Find yourself first and the entering into a relationship will be a little bit easier. I have already recommended this book to a few of my single friends and I cannot wait to hear what they thought of this book.